The goal of the yoni massage is not soley to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect.
As already mentioned, giving the woman an orgasm is not the main objective of the massage since this could lead to certain expectations and tension, which can completely ruin the experience.
On a more physical level, the yoni massage usually starts with massaging other erogenous zones, including the breasts, behind the knees, abdomen, and the thighs. Aromatic oils should be used as well and poured directly over the yoni at the beginning and during the session.
The goal can be made a simple as to pleasure and massage the yoni, and from this perspective both you and your goddess can relax into the massage. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying.
I will gently massage the mound and outer lips of your yoni, spending time here and not rushing, gently squeezing the outer lips between my thumb and index finger, and sliding up and down the entire length of each lip, doing the same thing to the inner lips of the yoni. Gently stroking the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeezing it between thumb and index finger. At this point you will become highly aroused but remembering this is done as a massage and not to reach orgasm I continue to encourage you to just relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, I insert the middle finger of my right hand into the yoni Very gently exploring and massaging the inside of your yoni. Taking my time, being gentle, feeling up, down and sideways, varying the depth, speed and pressure. This is a Tantra massage and I am nurturing and relaxing your yoni.
Now I begin massaging your sacred spot/G-Spot. You may feel as if you have to urinate, this is perfectly normal, don’t fight it. Taking time gently moving side to side, back and forth and in circles using my thumb to massage your clitoris. At this point orgasm may occur, don’t fight it keep breathing, lose yourself in it. Remember yoni massage is for your pleasure.
If orgasm occurs, I will gently remind you to keep breathing, as I will continue massaging. It is important to try and not give in to the urge to stop after the first orgasm. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra massage this is called “riding the wave.” Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the yoni Tantra massage.
Ejaculation may also occur, this is perfectly normal and ok. Again try and not give in to the urge to stop. It is important to let this emotional release happen. Many women, because of past traumas will have an outpouring of emotion, again this is also normal and one of the goals of Tantra massage.