How to Squirt: The Most Complete, Science-Based Guide to Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation, commonly referred to as “squirting,” is one of the most researched, misunderstood, and sensationalized aspects of female sexuality. This professional guide synthesizes clinical research, anatomical data, sex therapy insights, and lived experiences. It is designed for women and practitioners seeking a medically grounded, respectful, and complete understanding of squirting — from anatomy to orgasm.

What Is Squirting?

Squirting is the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. It’s separate from urination, although the two share the same exit point. Scientifically, it falls under the umbrella of “female ejaculation,” but there are key distinctions in fluid origin, composition, and function.

Types of Fluids Involved

Female ejaculate: A thick, milky or translucent fluid secreted by the paraurethral (Skene’s) glands. It contains prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and glucose.
Diluted urine: Fluid from the bladder that may be pushed out due to strong pelvic contractions or intense G-spot stimulation. It is not incontinence.
Mixed fluid: In most cases, the expelled liquid contains both components. Scientific studies using ultrasonography (e.g., Salama et al., 2015) confirm bladder involvement alongside gland secretion.

Key Distinction

Squirting is not necessarily a sign of orgasm, nor is orgasm required for squirting. The two phenomena can occur independently or simultaneously.

Anatomy of Female Ejaculation

Understanding female ejaculation requires detailed knowledge of vulvovaginal anatomy:

Relevant Structures

Skene’s glands: Located around the urethral sponge, these are the female homologs to the male prostate. They produce fluid during sexual arousal.
Urethral sponge: Spongy erectile tissue surrounding the urethra, rich in blood vessels and nerve endings.
G-spot: A region located on the anterior vaginal wall (2–3 inches inside), part of the urethral sponge complex. Highly sensitive and often central to squirting stimulation.
Bladder & Urethra: The bladder may fill and compress during stimulation, while the urethra serves as the ejection canal for ejaculate fluid.

Hormonal & Neurological Influence

Oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin play key roles in building arousal and triggering ejaculatory muscle contractions.
The parasympathetic nervous system (rest-and-digest mode) must be dominant — fear, shame, or stress will inhibit ejaculation.

Is Squirting Real? What Science Says

MRI and ultrasound studies confirm Skene’s glands swell and expel fluid during sexual activity.
Biochemical studies have isolated PSA and glucose in squirted fluid, differentiating it from urine (Zaviacic, 1984; Salama, 2015).
Squirting has no proven reproductive function, though some believe it plays a role in partner bonding and emotional catharsis.

Conclusion: Yes, squirting is real, and it’s measurable, observable, and entirely natural.

What Squirting Feels Like

Every woman’s experience varies, but common sensations include:

Rising internal pressure behind the pubic bone
Heat or tingling in the pelvic floor
Involuntary pelvic contractions
Urge to urinate followed by liquid release
Emotional release, euphoria, or even crying

Note: These sensations are not signs of dysfunction. They’re part of the neuro-physiological experience.

How to Make Yourself Squirt: Step-by-Step Protocol

1. Prepare the Mind and Environment

Lock the door. Turn off devices. Light candles.
Use calming breathwork (inhale 4s, hold 4s, exhale 6s) for 5 minutes.
Take a hot shower to relax the pelvic floor and stimulate blood flow.
Consider journaling or using affirmations like: “I trust my body.”

2. Lubricate Generously

Use organic, water-based or hybrid lubricants.
Arousal-enhancing gels (L-arginine-based) can aid blood flow.

3. Prolonged Erogenous Warm-Up (20–30 mins)

Stimulate outer labia, clitoral hood, inner thighs, buttocks, nipples, pubic mound.
Focus on breath and full-body pleasure. Avoid rushing to the vagina.

4. Clitoral Activation

Use circular or tapping motions under the clitoral hood.
Once aroused, press and release rhythmically. Avoid overstimulation.

5. G-Spot Access

Insert one or two fingers or a curved toy. Aim upward toward the belly.
Feel for a textured, spongy area 2–3 inches in.
Use a “come-hither” motion for 5–10 minutes, gradually increasing speed.

6. Apply External Pressure

With the free hand, press above the pubic bone.
This helps compress the bladder and Skene’s glands to assist fluid movement.

7. Skene’s Gland Activation

Maintain pressure and rhythm on the G-spot while externally pressing.
You may begin to feel a fluid shift. Don’t stop — you’re close.

8. Pelvic Floor Response

When pressure peaks, bear down gently as if starting to urinate.
This creates the expulsive force. Avoid clenching.

9. Use G-Spot-Targeting Tools (Optional)

Choose curved steel wands, glass toys, or firm silicone vibrators.
Many women report stronger results with toys than fingers.

10. Relax, Surrender, Release

If you feel the urge to pee — don’t stop. That’s the fluid pressing through.
Breathe, relax, and push out gently. Don’t judge or tighten.

Advanced Techniques

Doorknob twist: Twisting the fingers while pressing the G-spot.
Spider tap: Light rhythmic tapping over the anterior wall.
Long-short combo: Combine slow, deep strokes with fast, shallow ones.
Three-finger rock: For fuller stimulation and firmer pressure.
Cross-hand press: One hand inside, one outside, synchronized.

Is It Normal to Not Squirt?

Yes. Roughly 10–40% of women report ever squirting. Some bodies may lack active Skene’s glands or the right stimulation pattern. Emotional safety, anatomy, hormonal cycles, and trauma history all affect the outcome.

Squirting is not a benchmark of sexual success.

Common Myths and Facts

Myth	Truth
It’s urine	Contains different biochemistry (PSA, glucose)
It’s rare	10–40% of women can learn it
Must be orgasm	No — can occur without climax
It’s messy and shameful	It’s natural and healthy
It’s a porn myth	Backed by decades of anatomical research

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it safe?
Yes. Squirting is safe. Pee beforehand, use towels, and hydrate after.

Can I squirt alone?
Absolutely. Many women discover this through solo practice first.

Does it always involve toys?
No. Some use only fingers. Others prefer tools for depth and rhythm.

How much fluid is normal?
Anywhere from a few drops to 100–200ml is common. Volume may vary by arousal, hydration, and cycle.

Does it make sex better?
Many say yes — not because of the fluid, but because of the full-body relaxation and emotional release.

Conclusion: The Truth About Squirting

Squirting isn’t a party trick. It’s a natural reflexive release that combines anatomy, arousal, safety, and surrender. Whether it happens for you or not, exploring your body deeply and without shame is the true reward.

Honour your rhythm. Study your sensations. And if you squirt — celebrate it, not as a performance, but as a profound expression of embodied pleasure.

Note for Practitioners and Educators: This guide is based on over 40 peer-reviewed studies, somatic sex education principles, and verified client case work. Always refer clients to pelvic floor therapists or certified sexologists if physical pain, trauma, or confusion arises.

How to Squirt: A Complete Guide to Female Ejaculation